I, Dr. Latifah A Hameen, am an author, speaker, and trauma-informed relationship coach who helps couples heal emotional wounds, rebuild trust, and create healthier relationships. I have been a relationship coach since 2016, and have put in the work. My motto is: Healing is my Purpose.
I am a victorious survivor of abuse. I know what abuse is, how it feels to be knee deep in it. I struggled a lot of my adult life fighting my way out of it. So, as I do this work, know that I do it with empathy, not sympathy. I have walked in those shoes; I have suffered physical, mental, emotional, and financial abuse. I know the pain and suffering firsthand, but I didn’t let it discourage me or harden my heart. God had this mission for me, and I’m open to sharing it. I am grateful that God chose me for this work because I get to help women escape abuse and face their trauma, which helps them to heal, move forward, and rebuild their lives. That’s a blessing!
I still experience trauma, and when I do, I realize there is more work to be done, because triggers mean there are unresolved issues, so I push forward to heal with a purpose. I can recognize the triggers most of the time, and I know the work I need to do to keep myself on the right track.
When I have wronged someone, I make it a point to take a step back to right that wrong. It’s more about what I do afterward to amend the situation. I handle it and, as I move forward, I strive to do better. It takes humility and strength to stand up and admit when you are wrong.
Sometimes I examine some of the things that happened in my past, just to see how far I have grown. I have made strides, but I still have more work to do, by the grace and mercy of Almighty God, Allah.
I came from being steeped in abuse to pulling myself up, writing 11 books over a 20-year span (6 on domestic abuse awareness, 2 poetry books, 1 children & 2 on relationships). I was also blessed to have a sister friend write a play about my life, and I hope to have it produced soon. If any producers are interested, it’s ready to go.
I started a non-profit, Healthy Positive Choices, 19 years ago in 2007, as a preventative tool to educate teens and adults on the dangers of domestic abuse. A few times, we awarded scholarships to survivors of abuse at our yearly luncheon so they could further their education. I have also had the pleasure of going into high schools to educate teens on abuse, using the book I wrote, “How to Not to” Relationship Abuse Workbook. It aids teens if they ever encounter abuse; they have the knowledge to make informed decisions.
I have been in a healthy marriage for almost nine years now, and for me, that’s a milestone. We definitely put in the work to make it healthy. In the past, I had so much work to do on myself that I felt a healthy relationship was so far off for me. But we plan, and God plans, and he is the best of planners. Thank you all for allowing me to share my truth.
If you are ready for personalized support, I offer individual & relationship clarity calls and workshops designed to help couples rebuild trust, improve communication, and create a lasting change. Message me at latifahhameenconsultant.com. Until next time, God Bless!
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